Get Real in order to Flourish , Womanpreneur! and Yo, Pharrell, own up!

When a woman starts a business, or is well on her way in her business, lots of old behaviors, feelings and 'unfinished' places can make some very grand appearances.

That's a good thing! 

It means you are awakening to releasing old ways of thinking(usually misguided self protection from childhood)in order to embody who you've always been at heart. 
Here are some common behaviors that can come into full frontal view when we are fully immersed in our business:

• Overdoing
• Disorganization
• Overcommitting
• Fear
• Jealousy
• Arrogance
• Apologizing
• Lack of self care
• Grief
• Despair
• Anger
• Frustration
• Confusion
• Poor Decision Making
• Impatience
• Lying

Yup I said it. Lying. 

And here's how it can creep up.

1. You lie to yourself about what you physically can and cannot do by over-committing, overdoing,  becoming underfed, under rested and under cared for.
2. You lie to yourself about what you are really feeling when the technology isn't working, or you can't actually pay for that service, so you go into debt, or mess up your computer by overreaching your technical capacities and don't get the help you need.
3. You say NO when you could say yes because you don't think you have the skills, confidence, ability which clearly you do, according to everyone you know who believes in you.
4. You don't own up when you make a mistake. You say things like " Yeah, I could have been a little touchy" when you exploded at a staff member. Touchy? Really? You were nasty. Own it!
5. You are feeling so sad that things didn't go the way you had planned, and rather than give yourself the completely necessary space to feel the grief so you can move on, you clam up, bite your lip and continue. Believe me when I say, your body will find a nice hiding place for that grief, like lower back pain, an ulcer, high blood pressure.
6. You say you are transparent in  your marketing,  yet your actions are manipulative and deep down, kind of threatening. Entrepreneurs who live from inegriy have no need to say they are transparent. They just are.
7. Maybe you DID take someone elses amazing idea and claim it as your own . You can convince everyone else, but deep down, unless you are a sociopath, your beautiful soul is feeling really ashamed. Why not give the credit where the credit is due? You'll have your moment to shine too. Need some ideas on what not to say when you get found out?Check out Pharrells's lame dishonoring response to Marvin Gaye's family.
8. Finally, maybe you are being too hard on yourself. Maybe you have set nearly impossible standards for yourself that you can't keep, so you "keep up appearances" with others. Inside your soul is crumbling, as it would when pushed too far. 

My recommendation?
Sit quietly with the real you. Ask her who she is, not who you think she is. Watch what pops into your mind. You may be surprised to learn she always wanted to fly kites, or make glass marbles. 

When your soul, your integrity and your self care come together, 

you are  flourishing big time.

Hail Womanpreneur, Full of Grace!

Let's get real together

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